Once again the genealogy gods are playing with my mind and convincing me that I must somehow be related to everyone I know.
This past weekend I was texting my friend Marlene to make plans to get together for dinner. We were going back and forth, trying to find a restaurant that has outdoor seating and that will take a reservation. Then Marlene texted, “I have a cousin who owns a restaurant in Northampton. I’ve never been there though.”
I texted back, “That’s funny. I have a cousin who owns a restaurant in Northampton, but I’ve never been there or met him.” I couldn’t remember his name or the name of his restaurant at that moment, so I went to my Ancestry app, knowing that he was a nephew of my cousin Roger. Roger and his husband David have been tremendously helpful to me in my genealogy research, as readers of my blog know. Roger is my third cousin, once removed, on my Katzenstein-Goldschmidt line. We are both descended from Gerson Katzenstein and Eva Goldschmidt.
After checking my tree and finding the right name and the name of his restaurant, I texted Marlene, “My cousin is Jeremy Werther. He owns the Homestead restaurant.”
Much to my amazement, she responded, “He’s my cousin also!”
It seems Jeremy is Marlene’s second cousin, once removed, on his father’s side, and he is my third cousin, twice removed, on his mother’s side. We were just blown away. I’ve known Marlene and her husband Jim since 1982, and certainly as far as we knew, we had no relatives in common. How could it be that after almost forty years we had just discovered that she was the second cousin of the father of my third cousin, twice removed? We both just had to laugh and marvel at what a small world it is.
And, of course, that sealed the deal—we were going to Jeremy’s restaurant for dinner. We made a reservation at The Homestead, and I prepared various family tree charts to share with Marlene and with Jeremy.
It was a fabulous meal. Everything was so fresh and beautifully prepared and presented. We had two different salads, a roasted carrot dish, a bluefish dish, and two pasta dishes among the four of us. We shared most of the dishes as they are served as small plates to be shared, and it made for a very relaxed and enjoyable meal—each dish better than the last. And the service was stellar—friendly, efficient, and attentive without being intrusive.
Although I forgot to take photos of our meal, Jeremy gave me permission to include a few photos from their Facebook page. This is just a small sample of Jeremy’s artistry.
But the best part was meeting Jeremy, who seemed amazed by the fact that two of his cousins had shown up at his restaurant without any warning—two women he’d never met before. He sat with us as we explained all the connections and shared the charts with him. He was as gracious as one could imagine—all of us sharing in the crazy joy that comes with discovering the magic of family history.

My cousin Jeremy, chef and owner of the Homestead
If you live in the Pioneer Valley, or even if you don’t, be sure to visit The Homestead at 7 Strong Avenue in Northampton, Massachusetts. You won’t be disappointed.
What a wonderful evening. I love when connections are revealed! And the food looks delicious.
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Amazing …
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I know! Someday we will find some trail that connects our families…
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Absolutely !!
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Hi Amy, great pics of the food…you’re both looking good at The Homestead. Regarding your meal reservation, there’s no drop-in’s anymore here, it’s by reservation only. It’s a small world indeed relating to your cousin Jeremy.😊
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That makes sense to me. Things here are too loose.
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The photos are so enticing, Amy. If I lived in Northampton, I would make a reservation for my wife and me for this weekend. In the opening remark, you suggested that you may be related to everyone you know. I guess if you go back far enough in your ancestry you may find that are related to me as well. Haha! Have a great weekend, Amy!
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Stranger things have happened! And why not come to Massachusetts some day when things are normal again? I’d love to meet the two of you.
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If we ever come to your state we will try to meet you, Amie.
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So cool! So glad you were all able to meet and share a wonderful meal. The food looks delish!
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And it’s even better than it looks!
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How totally over the top exciting! What a fabulous evening. ‘Serendipity’ at it’s genealogical best 🙂 The food looks delicious and I wish I was in your neck of the woods to visit The Homestead 🙂
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Thanks, Sharon! And I hope someday you will be in my neck of the woods!
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Small world indeed! I just connected with a woman whose father worked for my paternal grandfather and his brothers back in about the 30’s. Turns out she went to high school with my parents! And as we talked further, she remembered that her mother used to take her to the chicken ranch to buy eggs from my maternal grandparents.
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Wow! What a great story! You should blog about it. 🙂
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That is a crazy story, Amy! Truly!
Hope you all had good holidays. Look forward to seeing you again soon.
Best, Carl
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I hope so also, Carl!
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This is absolutely amazing! I often wondered if anyone has connected with their somewhat distant relatives, and always thought I would be considered a nut for trying, but you make me so hopeful I could someday have a connection with some, and to not give up on my thoughts to try. Thank you so much for posting this! I’m pretty sure we aren’t related, but will continue to keep my fingers crossed…
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Well, you never know! And good luck in your hunt!
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You shouldn’t hesitate. I’ve met my parents cousins, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and even 5th cousins. I’ve met relatives I discovered through DNA which revealed my grandfather wasn’t really my grandfather. 😲 It has been a great joy to me and they have all been a delight. We do stay in touch, if infrequently. I hope you will give it a go.
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I agree with Eilene 100%.
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What a delightful story, Amy. And how great to find that the cousin in common has a superb restaurant for you all to connect at.
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Thanks, Eilene!
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What an exciting story. It brought tears to my eyes! And the restaurant! Yum.
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Thank you! And if you’re ever coming east, let me know!
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Definitely!
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Simply awesome! I bet you’ll be dining at Jeremy’s Homestead again soon.
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Definitely!
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