Thank you to everyone who commented or emailed or texted me to express their condolences regarding the loss of my mother. I am deeply grateful to you all for your support during this difficult time. I hope to be back to regular blogging soon.
I wanted to share a little more about my mother’s life. She was born on October 15, 1930, in Brooklyn, New York. She was the third child of my maternal grandparents, Isadore Goldschlager and Gussie Brotman, whose stories were told in my family history novel, Pacific Street. My mother Florence was twelve years younger than her brother Maurice and thirteen years younger than her sister Elaine and so was very much the baby in the family. Her family lived in a small four unit building in the East Flatbush section of Brooklyn at 1010 Rutland Road. My grandfather was a milkman whose route was overnight and whose earnings were limited, although my mother said she never felt poor. There was always good food on the table and a roof over their heads.
My mother loved growing up in Brooklyn. Her best friend Beatty lived in the building, and as I wrote about here, I was able to reconnect my mother and Beatty about six years ago after they’d been out of touch for seventy years.
My mother was a good student although being left-handed back then meant that the teachers tried to force her to write with her right hand. But she was too left-dominant for that. She was a voracious reader from a young age and visited the local library in Brooklyn often to borrow books.
When she was eleven, her parents decided to move to a new apartment complex in the Bronx called Parkchester where my aunt had moved after she got married. My mother was devastated to leave behind her friends especially Beatty and her beloved dog Sparky.
But she adjusted to life in the Bronx and made new friends and graduated from high school in 1948.
Two years later she met my father at a Jewish singles camp, as I described here. They were married in 1951 in New York and had a long and happy marriage until my father died in 2019.
My mother was a stay-at-home mom until 1965 when she decided to get a job as a teacher’s aide in the local elementary school. Because she proved to be so skilled as a teacher, she soon moved up to be a resource room teacher working with children with different learning styles and challenges. She was a devoted, well-respected, and beloved educator for many years, and even after she retired from full-time teaching, she continued to tutor children for most of the rest of her life.
She had many interests and never stopped loving books as well as theater, music, travel, knitting, cooking, gardening, Cape Cod, and especially animals. She was absolutely crazy about dogs and cats, and our home was always filled with both. She had a wonderful sense of humor and incredible taste in clothes, decor, food, and art.
But perhaps the most important thing I can say about my mother is that she was an unbelievably kind, loving, and compassionate woman—especially to her family, but also to her students, her colleagues, her friends, and everyone who ever had the good fortune of spending any time with her. I know I will keep her close to my heart for the rest of my life.
You can learn more about my mother and her life in her obituary found here.
Nice Amy, thanks for sharing…you were indeed blessed to be brought up in such a loving environment 🥰 and to have had her for so many years.
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Thanks so much, Liz. And by the way, I heard from your son yesterday through the blog! That was a nice pick-me-up!
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She was a loved and loving woman. We will all miss her.
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Thanks, Laurel. xoxoxoxo
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Beautiful tribute that puts so much of your mother and you in context. Thanks for sharing this! May your memories bring you and your family comfort at this time
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Thanks so much, Mark. I hope you are feeling better. xoxoxo
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A fine tribute to your mother, Amy! Your post tenderly describes how you love her and how she has loved you. I liked how she stayed at home and took care of the family and then became a very successful teacher.
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Thanks, Peter. I will always miss her.
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Thank you for sharing this wonderful tribute to your mother, Amy. She will live on in you, your daughters, and their children.
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Thanks, Cathy. She definitely will. She was fortunate to know her great-grandchildren and they were fortunate to know her. So there are still three generations living who knew her (and my dad). It will be up to Nate and Remy to keep it going beyond that. Perhaps they will be family historians?!
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If they follow your example, like you followed your mother’s, I’m sure they will be doing great things AND will keep the family history alive.
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Thanks, Cathy. I really appreciate that. 🙂
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Beautifully written Amy. Thank you for sharing. I loved the 1940 picture of her and Beatty. I especially loved the 2 pictures of your mother and father – blessings!
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Thanks so much, Sharon.
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Thanks for sharing the story of the wonderful woman who was your mother. She certainly led a full life.
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Thanks so much, Eilene.
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Dear Amy, I am sending you my condolescents by the loss of your mother and wishing you strength in these days. Many nice and dear remembrances to her will support you. Kindest regards, Jozef Jacobs
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Thank you so much, Joop. It is wonderful to hear from you even under sad circumstances. I hope you and your family are well, cousin.
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Hi Amy, you have honoured your Mum in this heartfelt blog, what an interesting and personally rewarding life she had. To train for a career after motherhood and be a devoted mother and pet lover demonstrates how kind hearted she was.
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She truly was. Thanks so much, Shirley, for your thoughtful comment.
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I love this picture Florence Goldschlager 1948! Great Post
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What a beautiful tribute to your mother. I had to laugh about her being left-handed as my dad was naturally left-handed and was also ‘forced’ to write with his right hand. He managed to do it but his handwriting was awful. February 11 would have been my dad’s 95th birthday.
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I guess my mom had to get there to wish him a happy birthday. 🙂 It was terrible what they did to left-handed kids back then. Thanks, Debi.
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Amy, I’m sure I would have loved your mother! Her love of animals and students must have been infectious. She was a beautiful woman, and I imagine she was always well turned out! What a great loss to your family. Many hugs to you. May her memory be for a blessing.
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By the way, are you left-handed? Did she pass on that trait?
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Nope, definitely a righty all the way like my dad. My brother is somewhat ambidextrous, but mostly right handed.
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Thanks so much, Luanne. I know that my love of animals (especially cats) and reading and teaching came from her. xoxo
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I’m not sure how I missed this post! What a beautiful tribute to your mom. Thanks so much for sharing her life with us. (((Hugs)))
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Thanks, Teresa. That’s why I have been more or less off the grid for the last four-five weeks.
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